"Our marriage has survived a crisis of faith. We are the Andersen family, and we are Ex Mormons."





(The following Exit Story was written together by Erik and Shaunalei Andersen)

I have joked with my wife the past few years that I must be a genetic freak since I was apparently born without a 'feeling the spirit' gene. I'm not sure what everybody else feels, but I never feel 'it.'

On my mission and as a single young adult member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I prayed; I fasted; I read through all the standard works; I paid my tithing; I did my home teaching. The works. On a number of occasions, I recollected and repented of every sin I could possibly remember. I would go up into the mountains, kneel down before the lord, and weepingly offer to give up all my sins if I could only know him. I quoted all the scriptures I knew in which the lord promised to answer his children if they would only came unto him: 'Knock, and it shall be opened unto you,' etc. etc. I poured out my whole heart to God, pleading with every feeling in my heart, that he would answer me. Again, and again, and again. (It would be funny if it wasn't so sad.) The church claims Joseph Smith was wrong to keep pestering the Lord about giving Martin Harris the first 116 pages of the Book of Mormon, yet we are taught to keep going to the Lord endlessly to ask him to confirm the truth--rejecting every doubting thought or feeling—until receiving a witness (some positive feeling of the Spirit) which confirms to our heart the truthfulness of the gospel. I kept at it until I lost wind, finally concluding that I was defective and shouldn't expect an answer. Hiding my weak testimony from the girls I dated, however, I continued to hope and act as if the church was true (accepting callings, giving priesthood blessings, etc.), even without the reassurance I'd longed for. Once married, I also withheld it from my wife.

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Comment by Harold on June 6, 2011 at 12:10am
Thank you so much for your inspiring message.  I think most all of us here have had very similar experiences in one way or another.  When I left the church, I was not quite as fortunate.  I did enjoy 26 years of marriage having four mostly grown daughters when it happened.  Life was pretty good, until then.  Being out for five years now has given me a very happy and satisfying life perspective.  Again, thank you and may your life together continue to filled truth and happiness.
Comment by Carrotsandgreenjello on June 6, 2011 at 2:46pm
Thank you for sharing your story. Although we aren't brave enough to share our story on-line we have a similar experience in our transition out of the church. Leaving was one of the hardest things we ever did, but like you we are closer as a couple and happier as a family.


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