My visiting teachers were just here.  I told them that I would like to be put on the Do Not Contact list.  They were very sweet.  Now I feel like having a good cry.


It's part of the cursedness of the church, isn't it?  No clean breaks.  They pitied me, prayed for me, bore their testimonies, pleaded to be able to come by just as friends.  I shared my disbelief and new-found happiness and told them that, while I liked them, I didn't want the awkwardness of visits in my future.


In hopes that this will help me to feel better . . . 


I want to bear my testimony here that Joseph Smith was not a prophet of God, that Thomas S. Monson is not a prophet today, that the organization which calls itself the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is a man-made organization. 

I know that well-meaning people can be greatly misled.  

I bear testimony that the Book of Mormon is a man-made document.

I don't know about God or Jesus, but I feel that, if they are real, they are fine with me not knowing.  I believe in love, and, if there is a god, then god is love and will never condemn me.

To paraphrase the great sage, Jon Stewart, I believe that we are living in hard times, but not in the end times. 

I believe in the overall goodness of humankind and that the world is a beautiful place.


These things I have figured out for myself and I say them in my own name.  Amen.


There.  Thanks for being here.



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Comment by Mending on March 30, 2011 at 1:47pm

Thanks for reaching out to me, Pollypinks.  I am happy to report that church members are respecting my need for privacy and are leaving me alone.  My husband loves having the home teachers come, but I was wary of that.  Happily, the lead home teacher came up with a non-denominational message just for me.  He agreed to proceed that way from now on.

I would love to send in a resignation letter but I am not doing it for the sake of my husband.    I'm taking things one day at a time.  Thanks for asking.  

Comment by Idaho Spud on March 30, 2011 at 3:14pm
Pollypinks, I do think I will have some small effect on my family, but I'm not holding my breath.  I wouldn't be surprised if I see no noticeable change in my lifetime.  I'm living my life on that assumption.  I will be sad, but not devastated to see no change.
Comment by pollypinks on March 30, 2011 at 4:32pm
I think I saw somewhere that we have a support group here for "mixed" marriages.  I'm positive all those involved in those relationships might have advice every now and again.  It must really be tough, but it seems as though you are getting some respect with your newly aquired beliefs.
Comment by pollypinks on March 30, 2011 at 4:38pm
I'm thinking of your comment, Idaho Spud, about being sad if you see no changes in your family.  I've kind of morphed into a position of being able to be happy for my dad when he expresses happy feelings about his visits at the temple, or other churchy things he does.  I guess I figure if it makes him happy, then I'm all good with it.  What's good for one ain't necessarily good for another.
Comment by Mending on March 31, 2011 at 1:56am
Thanks, Pollypinks.  I'm in the mixed marriages group and I have had some nice talks there, too.


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