1. Let go of Judgment
"You must learn to transcend judgement if you want to be happy...It is a large thinking sickness, since judgements begin with your minds. Instead of walking through life being mad at what is and what people choose to be, you might consider acceptance as an alternative. Instead of wishing that your reality were different, you might try treating it as a miracle worthy of being cherished. Freeing yourself of judgements would give you those moments you previously spent in judging for enjoying and being happy, and for working to improve what you dislike. True inner security will always elude those who sit in judgement, since they use up their life energy in anger at what is. You must first accept people and things for precisely what they are, before you can bring about positive change." - Dr. Wayne Dyer
2. Let go of Guilt
"The important thing to remember about guilt is that it isn't evidence of an action being universally wrong or bad. It is only evidence that some entity (including yourself) has deemed it to be so and made efforts to program a negative response to hopefully create an aversion to that act. Another important understanding about guilt is that it is entirely created within your own mind, which means your healing and releasing of guilt need not be contingent upon any outside factor being realized. Guilt is not experienced outside of ourselves. It may be influenced by outward stimuli, but it is entirely created by our internal thought processes, feelings, emotions and past programming. The significance of this is that we are 100% responsible for our guilt and can choose to do something about it at any time." - Exit Strategy
3. Be Honest
"The only thing sacred after all is the integrity of ones own mind." - Ralph Waldo Emerson. Honesty to self is the quickest way to finding and being your genuine self. If you cannot be honest with yourself, you can't discover or know your true self, and that truly is a lost state, to not know the real you.
4. Avoid Assumptions
We are poor mind readers, and too often we create wild fantasies in our heads of what we think is going on, getting ourselves worked up, upset, or depressed, instead of just waiting for the truth to surface naturally. Wait for the real answers, instead of giving in to our mind's tendency to create its own immediate explanations. You'll spare yourself a lot of anxiety, grief and embarrassment the more you can avoid making assumptions.
5. Don't take anything personally
The actions and decisions of others says more about them, than it can ever say about you. Whether offense is intended or not, we can choose to not take it personally and avoid all the emotion or drama surrounding events outside of our control. For the most part, what other people say or think about you is none of your business. It's their reflection of how they see you, and only they can change themselves to align with your intentions.
6. Be gentle and loving toward yourself
There is no one else more deserving and in need of your love and affection than you yourself are. You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with. Forgive yourself and love yourself for the truly remarkable being you are. There is no one else in the world just like you. View your life as a discovery of who you are and what makes you tick. There's no one else who will be at your side 24/7 and viewing life from your shoes.
7. Forgive readily
When you realize that forgiveness is primarily a gift you give yourself, and little or nothing to benefit the one who offended, you can begin to free yourself from the emotions locked up from the event that upset you. Your suffering need not last a lifetime unnecessarily. When we forgive readily, we prevent years of grudges poisoning our minds, essentially giving free rent of our mind to our perpetrators or past demons. Only we hold the key to unlocking our cell.
8. Try new things
The journey to self discovery cannot continue without being willing to try new things, take risks, and expand our horizons. How will you ever know whether you like Dark Red if you never give it a sip? There is a world of discovery just waiting for you to experience it. You may just discover your truest passion and life purpose!
9. Embrace Empathy
There is perhaps no greater or powerful emotion for good than Empathy. As far as you've come in your journey, remember to see yourself as you look back and see others struggling where you once were. Behind every angry, disturbed or otherwise troubled person, is a hurting soul. Love, compassion and empathy will blaze more paths than any other approach.
10. Live in the moment
Nearly all our worries, and all our regrets, surround events or unknowables outside of the current moment. If there is nothing that can be done in this moment to prepare for the future or heal from the past, then it can be released and allowed to transpire, or heal, in its own time. Give time a chance to distance yourself from past traumas. Let the future bring about its own solutions as they occur in the ever passing moment. Today is all that really exists, and time is merely a concept to carry our story. The more fully you live today, the fewer chances of there being regrets tomorrow, and the better prepared to meet those challenges.