Since I have left the church, the majority of my Mormon friendships have disappeared. I am not surprised. One of my friends asked me how a returned missionary, who has gone through the temple leave the church. So, I told him. I highlighted some mormon history, lack of DNA, lack of geography, Brigham Youngs famous words about blood atonement, and the list went on. Well, I think that frightened my friend. It is hard to hear things about your faith that are not faith promoting. Especially when you have devoted so much of your life to the church. The church tries so hard to keep it's members from being friends from apostates. I always found it interesting that in the temple recommend interview about associating with apostates. It is sad that they can't be more open minded. I missed out on so much by my narrow minded mormon views. I am glad I am out, it is so liberating. I hope someday my friends can free themselves from the mind control of mormonism. My friend asked me last general conference if I was going to watch it. I said no, why would I do that? He said, wow, you have completely left Mormonism. Yes, I have completely left mormonism, the false guilt is gone, and it is the best thing I have ever done for myself. I think I will go have a glass of Sangria. Oh, how I love Sangria! Cheers!

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Comment by MikeUtah on December 23, 2009 at 10:39pm
The mind control runs deep. Until someone's need to know the truth is greater than their need to remain comfortable, they will not open their mind to information that disagrees with their paradigm. Unfortunate but true, this usually leads our Mormon acquaintances to disassociate with the likes of us. It's good to be out though!
Comment by Jeannie on December 24, 2009 at 2:08pm
I am so happy I am the type of person that would rather face truth, than be comfortable. Of course, I was a convert to mormonism and none of my family are mormon. I don't have any children or a spouse who are mormon. It was a much easier road out of mormonism than many of my other friends would experience if they left the church. I lost a lot of friends, but, I have made up for that by getting reaquainted with old friends who aren't mormon. I just hate to see my friends stuck in a mind control mess. The only thing I have really lost would be the ability to trust organized religion. When I walk into a church my defenses go up and I immediately question what they say, and the motives. I guess that isn't much of a lost, it is more of a new strength I have gained. Kerry, I would love to try your Spanish Sangria recipe. Please send it to me when you have a chance. Thanks for everyones comments.
Comment by Joe Budro on January 9, 2010 at 4:54pm
Welcome to the world of the free. I wonder what the percentage of returned missionaries that leave the church is? I know several, but it would be fun to know how many really figure it out and move on. When you've been out for 28 years like I have, you might look back on the experience as a needed growth period, or protection period (I mean, how many of us might have gone completely off the deep end if we'd had total freedom when we were young and immature), or you might just wonder "What the hell was that all about"... I guess it will depend on what you discover now...
Comment by Jeannie on January 9, 2010 at 9:20pm
I wonder how many returned missionaries leave the church? That would be interesting to find out. I remember Pres. Jacobsen, my mission president told me that serving a mission for the church would strengthen our testimonies to the point where we would never leave the church. He said a mission is really to convert the missionary. I really bought into that whole thing. I really loved my mission, I thought it was a great experience, until I realized (many years after the fact) that I was teaching lies. As far as I know, none of my companions have left the church, they are all strong in the faith. Paying, praying and obeying!
Comment by Joe Budro on January 12, 2010 at 5:34pm
My first companion has left, as well as several other former missionaries I know. A mission is just one brain washing tool used by the church. I'm sure it makes hard converts of many missionaries, but whether a person stays or leaves depends on their mind, and how much they want to know the truth. A true seeker will never stay long in any cult. A sheep, on the other hand, will munch the grass on the testimonial hillside forever. Were the death threats and demonstrations of "how life may be taken" still in the endowment when you went to the temple for the first time? I think that was the first time my faith was really shaken.
Comment by Jeannie on January 13, 2010 at 5:56pm
They had taken out the death threats and penalties before I went to the Temple. It is a kinder, more gentle temple experience. I believe I would never have gone again if they would have had the penalties in the endowment. They still had the signs and tokens covenants ect. A mission is definately a mind control instrument. They more you talk about how true something is, the more true it seems to be to you. I am reading a book by Steve Hassan, Combatting Cult Mind Control. It is amazing how many tactics there are to control someone.
Comment by Miguel on August 30, 2010 at 3:36am
Mormon friends? Can they really stay your friends after you leave? Of course not. They are only friends if you are willing to listen to the message and as long as you stay in the fold and say 'amen' to everything and everyone.


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