I recently stopped attending the Mormon church. My intention is to break all ties with it. Yet all my family are members and I don't want to ruin my relationship with them. They've been loving, supportive and encouraging my entire life, but if they know I've left the church that may not continue. Seems simple enough to just fade away into "inactivity." I would like to do that, but my circumstances won't allow that. I'm currently disfellowshipped and have been meeting with my bishop on a regular basis.
As far as my family and the people in the ward, I could easily fade into inactivity, but there's no way I can do that with the bishop. I have to say something to him. So far I've taken the passive route. I haven't attended church and I don't return the secretary's calls about interviews with the bishop. I know that won't go on forever. The secretary will keep calling and calling. Eventually the bishop will call me or show up on my doorstep. At least then it would be on my terms. If I see him in his office it's on his terms.
The problem with telling the bishop is that I don't know what he'll do with the information. Will he allow me to fade away? Will he broadcast it? I know he'll assume that I've returned to my sins, which I haven't, but I'm sure I can't convince him of it. For now I'll probably continue my passive strategy.
I'm not sure why I'm posting this, but any feedback or comments are welcome.