I am saddened by Bruce Hafen's remarks this weekend at the Evergreen Conference. Several years ago, I went with a mormon friend to a few of these meetings for support for his feelings of same sex attraction. His Bishop suggested he start to attend these meetings. He did not want to go alone, I told him I would go with him. I met some wonderful people, who were struggling with same sex attraction in the mormon church. I say, struggling because Evergreen believes you can be turned from those attractions.

My friend enjoyed the meetings with those who are struggling with same sex attraction. He felt that he was not alone. However, it did not help qwell the feelings. He felt more like a failure because he was not able to overcome the feelings.

My friend did not find healing in Evergreen only more confusion and struggle. I think acceptance is the answer. Accepting ourselves and who we are, and finding peace within ourselves, regardless of what other people think.

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Comment by Xiban on September 29, 2009 at 1:49am
Hi Jeannie, I think the same about same sex atraction in mormonism...it is something the people can't change: Same sex atraction is not a bad thing...
Comment by Rick Tomlinson on October 18, 2009 at 11:59am
When I was a missionary in Cartagena, a young man came to us and asked us for ''help'' dealing with his same-sex attraction. His family were Jehovah's Witnesses and he said if he even admitted it to them they would disown him.

I remember thinking at the time that any church that would teach such a reaction or endorse such treatment of a family member could not have much to do with god. I still think that.

I worked with him for months, through several companions. My companions invariably presented him with scriptures and talks that condemned homosexuality and told him how miserable he'd be if he didn't change. All I could ever come up with were passages that told him god loved him and that the world as god created it is a beautiful place. He eventually decided to come out and damn the consequences. He decided the best path for him was to embrace who we was. My then companion said he blamed me for this young man becoming so ''lost''.

I never could bring myself to feel like there was anything wrong with him. He was a great kid! And I felt better for him accepting himself than I ever did about the idea of helping him try to be someone else. Looking back, I really do hope that I might have played a role in helping him develop his self-respect, or at least that I didn't burden him with extra feelings of guilt and self-doubt. The last time we met with him, he cried when he told us his decision, but they were happy tears. I certainly hope he's still happy today.
Comment by Xiban on October 18, 2009 at 1:19pm
I have a cousin who I love...one of the best people I know...and he is openly homosexual...so when at Church they said homosexuality was an evil thing I always was thinking than that couldn't be true...


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