"Powerful, powerful writing! I can't help but wonder if the Elder in question is as much or more of a captive of the system as the writer of the letter. Think how much more he has to lose by his coming clean. Is their silence wrong? Maybe. Is it…"
I AM: a 58 year old gay man, an orphan, twice widowed, a prostate cancer survivor, curious about the world, reasonably happy.
I HAVE: lost 140 lbs (ask me about gastric bypass surgery), created my own family from a host of friends, a 5 year old shia tzu named JAZZ.
I LIVE with 3 friends, 3 dogs, and 2 cats!
I AM: quite a seeker when it comes to spiritual things. I was born and raised LDS (Mormon) and served a two year mission (1969-1971) in Ireland of all places.
After returning home I was excommunicated when I came "out of the closet". "The Church" has little use for gays and lesbians. I made the acquaintance of a community of Benedictine (Catholic) Monks in Oceanside, California. In time I spent the better part of a year there as a Candidate for membership. In time I discovered that this was not where I wanted to be.
I moved to Tucson, Arizona (in 1978), attended college and worked some most unusual jobs (I managed an adult bookstore, worked for the university's rare book and manuscript department and was a volunteer manager at the Food Cooperative).
In 1983 I met and fell in love with Joseph Totten who was in town for a church conference. I moved to Hollywood on New Years Day, 1985. In May 1985 we registered as Domestic Partner #32 in West Hollywood and we hyphenated our names to produce Totten-Reid. We eventually moved to Santa Barbara, California and Baltimore, Maryland. He was a clergyman and educator with The Metropolitan Community Churches. He died10 years ago in December, 1988.
In 2000 I met, on line, my second partner. A delightful young man named Craig Junceau. He moved to Baltimore and was here until he was killed in a home accident in September, 2006.
Since then I have lived with a number of friends including the family I live with now.
So do you have any questions? Just ask away I'll probably answer.
Interests and Hobbies:
I find all things religious & spiritual fascinating especially neo-paganism and Tibetan Buddhism..
In the past I've made jewelry, worked with stained glass & mosaics. Until last year I was making soap (Grandma was a pioneer). I am also a voracious reader.
Books by: Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist is partiularly good).
Books by Lama Surya Das & Thubten Chodron.
Sacred Paths for Modern Men by Dagonet Dewr
Favorite activity after mormonism?
I've lived more of my life as an EX-mormon than I did as a member. I don't want to sound too pretentious but living live freely is the best answer I can give.
Your website, Facebook, Twitter or G+ profile URL:
I introduced a writer's web site to my brother-in-law. The first piece he wrote was on the Constitution and gay marriage. He's currently in school (in addition to his full time day job), learning to be a paralegal. You might be interested in checking it out:
Are you very active in the fight against the churches over Prop 8? There are a few groups, from what I've read in the paper, that are trying to band together and get the vote overturned and let the Supreme Court ruling stand. I always thought that the Supreme Court had the final stay and the individual states and counties had to follow the rulings. So, Prop 8 was a double disappointment to me.
Mike Fairy Bear, I didn't think your photo was real until I read your profile. You look more like someone that stepped out of a middle-ages painting. That, sir, is a major compliment!
Welcome! And, I wish the church had a heart instead of just a vault in the mountainside where it keeps its wealth.
My half-brother is also gay. We've had many long talks on the subject since we got to know each other, and I think I understand a lot of the concerns that you live with on a daily basis. He has AIDS, diagnosed in 1987! Was a drug and alcohol addict, trying to escape from his life, until about 5 years ago. Since then, he's been unbearable! There's nothing worse than a reformed alcoholic especially when he's gone back into the M church. Mother, in effect, told him to be done with all his nonsense (drugs, alcohol and being gay) or she'd quit helping him. I'm sure she learned that from the church. Money rules.