"As a 19 year old female whose parents already gave her the ultimatum to go to college and earnestly search for a husband or go on a mission by the time I was able to, this is a terrible game changer for me. Day 1 and both my parents have already…"
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I'm an 18 year old college student living in the heart of Mormon culture, SLC. I love being outdoors and meeting new people.
I was born into the church but my family has always been relatively jack-mormon compared to some of my very strict neighbors. My parents are a lot more open minded and aren't above taking off the garments for a few hours or drinking tea regularly and alcohol in very rare situations. Mom's side of the family were converts at the very beginning way back in the day with Jo Smith. Dad's family were converts but stayed pretty uninvolved. When my dad met my mom he became hardcore TBM in order to marry my mom in the temple.
I was never raised as a fully committed member, I just went because that's what everyone does around here without actually asking why. I started doubting about the age of 14. YW's Lessons taught a lot of things that I was against (women are meant to be baby makers and amount to nothing more, you need to find a good LDS man and snatch him up and he'll support you forever and you need to have ten kids starting your wedding night, typical gay marriage and abortion arguments, etc). It was then that I began to investigate and discovered a lot of things I didn't know that were hidden for a reason. This new information combined with my opposing views to most basic LDS beliefs was enough to convince me that this whole religion is a huge joke. I waited until I was 18 to finally admit to my parents my true feelings because I still live at home and they respect my choices a bit more as an adult. Except for some tense moments, things have been relatively normal if religion isn't brought up in ANY way. It has caused huge fights to ensue, so I avoid it as much as possible. I've lost a few friends because i'm "living in sin" but hey, if you don't like me for me, then good riddance anyways. My extended family doesn't fully know or they would flip out like, a lot. I'm easing my way into that conversation.
My records are still in the church because they're not a bother right now and it would cause a lot of family drama for me to remove them right now. There are times that I wish I could go back and have guaranteed friends and church responsibilities and so on and so forth (plus, it's a lot easier to find a nice LDS boy to date here than a down to earth normal guy in my personal experiences so far) but i'll never regret leaving. I love my new found freedom way too much. I enjoy the little things and appreciate what we have here instead what I *deserve* to get after this life as a mormon. Plus, I don't have to live up to a group of grumpy old men's strange standards to get into the celestial kingdom. So much pressure off my shoulders to be perfect. My only struggle right now, is that my entire neighborhood is LDS and I still love them all a lot. Being mormon here is more cultural than people think it is. Losing your faith is also losing a lot of friendships. I'm torn wether I should go back to church simply to be included or if I should stand my ground. It's about half and half right now.
Interests and Hobbies:
Writing, hiking, climbing, geocaching, video games, computers, hanging out with friends, and being a normal college student.
I love biographies. I enjoy cheesy romance novels every once in awhile. Romantic era and modernistic novels and poems are my favorite as well.
Mostly comedies and old time-y movies.
Favorite activity after mormonism?
Sleeping in on Sundays. Also, NEVER having to wear garments.
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