"I grew up in the church, been on a mission, worked in the temple for 2 years, and my uncle was a polygamist, as a result I have 56 cousins ish. Additionally I have been to the polygamist colony several years ago and have a good understanding of…"
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"Yes, very happily monogamous. :) Thanks. I have teenagers too and feel the same way you do about handing out condoms. I'm happy to say that my kids are very shy and we haven't had to worry about doing such a thing. lol. In fact, sometimes…"
"Oh gosh! speaking of garments, the first time I took mine off was to garden, and guess who showed up while I was in my cool, sleeveless top! My husbands great aunt and uncle, who took us through the temple to get our endowments and marry.
My husband and I are both products of polygamy. We joined the LDS church after his crazy uncle told us to either BE the One Mighty and Strong, or to FIND the one. We decided he might be right and we sure weren't going to believe that HE was the ONE! we were very lonely anyway, AND I was hoping we might influence my younger, half sisters not to get into polygamy. That was in 1997. We were very active. I don't think we had any great need to go to the temple but we let ourselves be pressured. So after about 2 years, off to the temple we went. Basically you either go through the temple or people wonder what nasty thing you've done to keep you from getting a recommend. We were never coffee or alcohol drinkers anyway. There was nothing for us to give up, and I thought it should be interesting. I'm pretty sure that I was never really a believer.
After about 8 years of that one of my little sisters invited us to her reception, (not the secret wedding) and I found out through other sources that she was marrying someone who already had a wife. I made the, probably wrong decision, not to go. That really ticked me off. Why the hell did I belong to the very church that introduced polygamy as a heavenly requirement if I wouldn't even support my sisters decision?!!!
I began to do some more research. Before that time Jon Krakhauer called me to give him information for his book. I was very suspicious of him. When I read his book I felt embarrassed that I knew so little about my religion. My VT partner felt really bad about my questioning and she and others began asking me to pray and read my scriptures. Unfortunately that is exactly what had made me a non-believer all of my life! The whole story of Abraham? I could never reconcile that. I cried every time I read about it. I could not let my little girl watch the cartoon version that we had bought from missionary type of guys who came to our door. Ismael reminded me of myself as a child I guess. And that a man would listen to the voices in his head and sacrifice his son? !!!
Well, I knew it was time to drop the act. It took some patience and time to get my husband on board but when we read In Sacred Holiness and he realized that JS also had taken married women, that was the last nail in the coffin for him!
Some of my hero's are, Sarah Pratt ( she is my husbands ggggg who knows, aunt) and William Law! My husband is a descendant of Parley P Pratt and it amazes me that he is so revered! WHY did he die? He had stolen another mans wife while the husband was away! Her husband didn't appreciate that apparently.
We are both descended from early mormons. Oh how I would like to be a descendant of Charles Darwin, or Samuel Clemmens!
I have 9 beautiful kids whom we are trying to raise to be moral, THINKING human beings .
Daughters of Zion; A family's conversion to Polygamy. by Kim Taylor (my husbands aunt) Shattered Dreams by Irene Spencer (my husbands great aunt :) In Sacred Loneliness by Todd Compton, (not a relative at all!) Under the Banner of Heaven by Jon Krakhauer (a whole chapter about my uncle!)
The Believers by janice holt Giles (The book that really started us down the road to freedom! It's just a novel!) Yes I do like the Twilight Series even though I really questioned my teenager reading it! :/
The Moral Animal Robert Wright
Pride and Prejudice. Star Wars. Count of Monte Cristo.
Favorite activity after mormonism?
ya well, pft....shopping on Sunday?
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I grew up in the church, been on a mission, worked in the temple for 2 years, and my uncle was a polygamist, as a result I have 56 cousins ish. Additionally I have been to the polygamist colony several years ago and have a good understanding of extremes. My mother and i have helped
Some of our family leave the Colony in BC, Canada. What I mean by help them leave is, go and pick them up in the middle of the night, then get the family ASAP and leave without a trace or being caught. Its creazy to listen to individuals who lived in an environment to where polygamy or any other extreme beliefs are considered normal. its Great to see you seperate yourself from this
Ha! Nine kids! Wow! You are way beyond my 5! It is fun to have a big family, but not at all what I thought it would be like from having my head stuffed full of how that is my only great reason for existence in life. I have enjoyed the freeing feelings of letting go of the dogmatic ideas and pressures of being a women caught in the lds church. I am very happy to be raising a family and feel that it is a gift to the world. We too have chosen to TRY at least, to raise FREE THINKERS! What a blast. So much better than trying to shove kids into a crappy non- sensible mold. My children are very very fortunate to have the options available to them and the acceptance that I never had. Glad we are friends!!
Hi Mary. I had a pretty fun childhood in Enterprise...mostly raising hell because it was very slow otherwise! I'm not closely related to the Williams clan you mentioned. My dad's family came to southern Utah from southeast Idaho. I have lots of relatives (Robinsons, Ortons) in the Parowan area via my mother. Cedar City and St. George were the big cities when I was young! I lived in Edmonton from 2001-2006, and still miss Alberta (at least during the summers--lol). What about you? Have you lived in Cedar very long? Do you get up to southern Alberta very often?