Hi everybody, I'd like to begin with a little background on myself. My name is James, I have been born and raised my entire life in a strong Faithful Mormon family in Utah. I always grew up with…Continue
"James, like the others - so HAPPY for you that you have the courage to accept who you are and what you know despite the immense pressures that your family has placed on you! I have friends that were just like you but wasted years of precious life…"
"Thank you all for the great love and support, and it truly is great speaking to other people that for the most part, know exactly what I am feeling, and that know the pressure of families and the community in this church. A few things to clarify, as…"
Welcome to the growing club of ex-mo's or those on the ex path! Why hide or lie about who you really are is one of the thoughts or questions that each of us have or are going through. I left the church years ago and my parents still will…"
"I would like you to understand, that you are the shining Eagle scout, you are the quorum president, you are your parents child. These things you are. How you define yourself is who you are; be true to yourself. I do not know when you will know, but…"
"James: Bottom line: You deserve to be happy and to be loved as you are. You sound like you've weighed your options carefully but feel you're in "rock vs. hard place" territory. Understandable. Coming out is hard. Every one of us…"
Let me try to give you a little perspective. What you are going through now is normal, natural, common, and right on schedule. You are actually lucky that it's happening now instead of later in life. I know that doesn't make it…"
"Welcome James! While I don't share the dilemma of coming out as being Gay, it's similar to coming out as apostate. I agree with others that it would probably save you from overloaded grief by not revealing your non-belief and being gay…"
"Welcome James! Sounds like you're going through some rough times. Please use the support of people around you (including the many supportive people here!) who will accept you for the wonderful human being that you are. It's so important to…"
My heart goes out to you. I am a mother of five. We left mormonism when my oldest was 12. I knew she would never ever fit in. I knew it would crush her, but I didn't now completely why. She came out to us when she was 14, that she was…"
"In my humble opinion, one of the most important things to do before telling your family is just to make the conscious decision to put your own happiness first. I realized I had been going to church most of my life to please other people, and when it…"
"James, as someone else pointed out, you really are not in too deep in many ways. You are not married. You do not have children.
If getting the rest of your education means staying with your parents, then I would say, grit your teeth and hang in…"
"I was the only Mormon in my family, so I'm not much help in knowing how to tell your family. But at 20 or 21 (you wrote both) you are an adult and have a right to make your own life choices. You're hardly in too deep at such a young age…"