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- Relationship Status (single, partner, etc):
- In a relationship
- My Story:
- I joined the church for a few reasons in 1998-peer pressure, (I lived in a mostly-mormon community) my parents divorce (they are atheist/agnostic and have been my whole life) and a desperate longing to find a place to fit in. I bought the whole story, hook line and sinker.
My parents made me wait until I was 18 to be baptized (I asked to join the church when I was 14, it was a big no-go from them) and a year after I took out my own endowments in the Oakland temple. I got sealed to a good friend I met in University when I was almost 21-spinster age by church standards. We had a son the following year, and three years into our marriage we divorced. It was the ugliest experience of my life and the church only made it worse.
There is a whole lot of dramatic nonsense I am leaving out, but feel free to ask me about it-that crap piling up is what led me to honestly look for the truth, take in account the many, many double standards and outright lies and contradictions in the mormon doctrine, grow a backbone and fight for my own path to happiness. I officially resigned in October of 2008 and I haven't been happier.
- Interests and Hobbies:
- I sail competitively and I am a member of a local yacht club. I am addicted to cooking, I spend a lot of time reading foodie blogs, watching foodies television, and trying out new recipes. I love reading, and I love history. My parents are both artists so I dabble in painting and ceramics. When the weather is nice I spend a good amount of time gardening. Enjoy wine and beer, but I am not too keen on hard liquor. I hope to attempt my first batch of home made wine in the next few months, once I gather the supplies I need. I am a coffee snob, and I love tea. I have a collection of "molly" dresses I made when I was still in the church, and I have enjoyed deconstructing them into beautiful, artistic pieces of clothing with interesting hemlines and open backs. I *hated* wearing garments. I love tank tops and bikinis. I have a cat named Pondo and a lovely significant other whom I have been with for a year. I have a 12 gallon nano cube with soft corals, a recent hobby I just picked up. I like working with my hands-they are pretty beat up but they can make some pretty incredible stuff. I am always looking for new adventures-life is short, I want to cram it chock full of happy experiences.
- Favorite Books:
- To Kill A Mockingbird, Dune, Welcome To The Monkey House, Contact, The Martian Chronicles, Dandelion Wine, It, Rose Madder, The Fishing Fleet, The Omnivore's Dilemma, A History of Salt, Kitchen Confidential, Cooking For Mr. Latte, Julie and Julia, The Cook and the Gardener, Mastering The Art Of French Cooking, Me Talk Pretty One Day, The Idiot Girls' Action Adventure Club, Blue Boy...
I could go on and on about the many books I like. These are just a few. It is *very* difficult to move, due to the many crates of heavy books I own!
- Favorite Movies:
- I have a lot of those. Ask me about them.
- Favorite activity after mormonism?
- I would have to say sailing. There is nothing as gorgeous as hanging your legs over the rail, dipping your feet in the water, and enjoying a frosty cold beer after a great race.
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- Sexual Repression, Emotional Immaturity and Mental Stagnation in Mormon Marriages
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- Mormon Women, Prozac and Therapy
- LDS Church: Do as I say, not as I do
- Returning to the Present
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Abea,
I am new to this site and looking for like minded people in the local vicinity. My wife and I are both interested to know if there are any groups of people in the Sacramento are that either formally or informally get together? We live in Nevada City.
Carl Toro