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Comment by MikeUtah on January 5, 2012 at 9:10pm

I had hopped for more discussion too.  I guess the group is here when it's needed.

Comment by Dugger on January 5, 2012 at 7:15pm

I'm struck there hasn't been more posts on this thread.  I thot there'd be a lot more interaction.  Oh, well....

Comment by MikeUtah on January 2, 2012 at 9:37pm

This blog post should benefit mixed faith relationships: http://www.lifeaftermormonism.net/profiles/blogs/passive-aggressive...

Comment by MikeUtah on February 26, 2011 at 10:50am

Hi Chipmonk, that's a very tough situation you're in. My suggestion is to look for the positives: You can now live your life going forward free of guilt, and pursue it how you wish. You're never too old to go back to school. I know many an ex-mo stay-at-home-mom that has gone back to school, even if their kids are now all grown and approaching retirement. Fuck retirement in my opinion. Go now and live!

Comment by Mending on February 17, 2011 at 2:25pm

I think that I am allergic to Mormons. Tuesday night we were scheduled to have dinner with our LDS neighbors, followed by a visit from our home teachers. I developed a migraine. Really and truly and I haven't had one in years. As a matter of fact, I haven't had one since I stopped attending church. This makes me want to say, "hmmmm."

It's a good thing that I have developed and immunity to my husband's Mormoness. Could this be because I am certain that he is not spying on me in order to fill out some report? Hmmmm again, says I.

Comment by Dugger on January 30, 2011 at 4:19pm

Ha Ha.  That's funny.  Thanks for the chat!

Comment by Mending on January 30, 2011 at 2:48pm

Oh, and you can count me on your home teaching for this month, Dugger.  You did a very good job.

Comment by Mending on January 30, 2011 at 2:47pm

It wasn't fun when I was TBM and watching my three sons become, 1) drug addicted and 2) an RM temple married and then inactive and 3) a TBM turned atheist.  But it is great now.  (The drug addicted one is better.)  Two of my daughters left weeks after I did when they realized that they could finally investigate the issues which had been bothering them, without risking hurting me.

But I can't feel sorry for myself for any of that past stuff because it is so great in the children area now.   I feel sooooo bad for you and anyone else who is surrounded by TBM's.  I really don't know what I would do.  My husband and I are converts, so the extended family is all rooting for me, too.

I hope that you are getting all the support you need here and elsewhere.  What a wonderful thing the Internet is, right?  You take care, Dugger.  You deserve the best.

Comment by Dugger on January 30, 2011 at 2:35pm

Mending,

 

Thanks for sharing.  You've had a tough road.  I'm happy you have so many of your kids who have doubts about the church.  I'm envious!  All the family around me are total TBM thru and thru.  They support their mom.  It'd be great if they'd have more questions, too.

Comment by Mending on January 30, 2011 at 2:27pm

Hey, Dugger--

We have a lot of years behind us, too:  thirty-four last December.  Up until my disaffection we had an almost-ideal marriage.  We had reached that comfortable balance that only being together through many ups and downs produces.  I was looking forward to good times together from here on out.

That is awful that your son counselled your wife to leave.  I have heard about such things happening and it appalls me.

I don't think that my DH has any hopes about me coming back.  He thinks that my new beliefs are part of the bipolar2 with which I was diagnosed a few years ago.  My take on it is that being in the church triggered so much stress that I became nearly suicidal.  That led to my finally being diagnosed and finding helpful medication.  But it was only by leaving the church that I fully began to heal.

My good fortune is that five of our six children don't like the church, either, although they love their dad.  He thinks that they are just crazy, like me, but he tries to be nice about it.  He really doesn't realize how not nice it is to be considered crazy.

Thanks for commenting again.  I really needed this chat today.  

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