So, as I've released myself from TSCC my opinion on many things has changed, sometimes dramatically... as I'm sure many of you can relate.

I was wondering about other people's thoughts on porn... have they stayed the same? altered somewhat? changed completely?  Or what?

I have mixed feelings about this subject and want some help sorting it out.

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I agree.
I don't advocate banning either, when it comes down to it people have to make their own decisions about things. I think the sex industry should be legalized and regulated. I actually don't have an issue with sexuality or eroticism only with human suffering.
I agree.
I second that Cary. 
Oh, not to worry about my son and the JW.  If someone hangs around my kid too long trying to push their agenda, the old ways of not so nice language appear.  My husband and I actually used to laugh like hyenas because we could always tell when our boy was in "full form."  I didn't do a good job of controlling his mouth.  Here's a milder version of what he said to a home teacher recently:  "You people are so full of shit your eyes should be as brown as mine.  You can all go get fucked for all I care.  My childhood was nearly ruined because of assholes like you."  So, I'm actually pleased that he was polite to this poor schmuck.  And yes, I'd like that link to the JW, since I have this friend hanging on to me, or, shall I say, I'm allowing her to hang on because it's nice to talk about everything BUT God in the middle of each week.
I've decided to call my JW friend today and tell her not to come anymore.  Bar, you made a point I hadn't known when you said they get credit for hours put in visiting, whether talking about their church or not.  I don't want to be a part of that scheme, and I don't like being used.  Now that I realize I'm being used, I'm calling her on it, and calling a halt to it.
My view of pornography has not changed since becoming an ex-mo. While I believe in free speech, including all the speech I disagree with, I know excessive pornography can be destructive for an individual, couple and a family. The problem with some devout believers of any faith is they are shamed about their sexuality early on. The sexual urges become a place of disgust to themselves, even their fantasies and dreams about sex. I think Mormons turn to porn escape the pressure of well, living Mormon. Since many don't drink etc....porn becomes a undectiable and private refuge. Hence, Utah has one of the highest porn use statistics (not sure of the article, but it's out there)

I still don't like porn.  I think kiddie porn is disgusting.  But I think that the pressures of mormon living, for women, are what feeds into so many obesity problems we see in the church.

Porn and food can both be refuges leading to addiction.

porn, food, drugs, video games, scrubbing your hands . . . none of these things are the source of addiction, only the outward from it takes. Addiction is the heart of the problem and it is a monster. 

 

this hearkens back to "All things in moderation." 

 

Porn on its own is no more distructive than any other visual or auditory media and possibly less diestrctive than some. 

 

Porn blended with repression and shame . . . that's a whole other story. Turning point you said Pron becomes a refuge, and that is a very telling phrase. That a refuge is needed is undeniable. and Porn is one of the more harmless, quiet and private. Excessive anything is destructive, but general use? no. it isnt. what is, within the LDS world, is the guilt that comes with any watching of porn. that is harmful. but it's also what makes the stuff soooo excrutiatingly exciting when you are young. the forbidden!

Addictions become a "refuge". They destroy the individuals free will. I know there are those who leave the church only to live excessively with sex, drugs, alcohol etc...only to go from no free will of thought to no free will due to a developing addiction. That's why I like sites like this one that give a broader perspective to being an ex-mo.

Porn is one of the more harmless, quiet, and private?  Oh really.  Then why are so many marriages being destroyed by it.  It it's so harmless, it wouldn't go to that level of destruction.  You are right about addiction.  I had a friend at work whose husband had his own bathroom papered with playboy centerfolds.  And her children saw them whenever they had to use "daddy's" bathroom.  I thought she was nuts for putting up with it.

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