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Comment by Wesmanlv on September 18, 2009 at 8:02pm
hi everyone - i actually am gay (and single)

Comment by David J Larkin, Jr. on April 10, 2009 at 3:24pm
Mike, I figured the only way I could ever read it was to turn it into a comedy piece, so I did. And you what It's actually funny!
Comment by Mike "Fairy Bear" on April 10, 2009 at 8:14am
Must say I really liked your did you have the patience to rewrite that much of I Nephi?
Comment by David J Larkin, Jr. on April 10, 2009 at 6:35am
I left the Church at the age of 21, having decided, in the last weeks of my mission to Brazil, that I did not believe the Church to be true. By coincidence, I also fell in love with my last missionary companion--a man, of course--although I didn't know at the time that I had. The concept of a "gay" or homosexual person didn't exist in my mind yet and didn't really get there until I was about 30. From 21 until 30, what did I do? I got married (to a woman) and read a lot of books.

For me, leaving the Church was by far the hardest thing I've ever done. I was number 9 of 14 kids (in chronological order, counting step- and half-brothers and sisters; my father married three times, and each set of us grew up with him). I was also a fifth-generation Mormon and the first person in my immediate family to leave the Church on purpose. My family, at the time, disowned me (years later, it became more-or-less accepting). My friends were afraid to speak to me because of their parents' disapproval and their own puzzlement over my decision. I eventually moved somewhere else and found my own "family." By the time I figured out that the love I'd had for my last missionary company was real, not just some unacounted-for flicker in the night, I was 30/31 and had been married for five years. I told my wife I thought I was gay. She said she knew better. I said, "No, I really think I am." Life at home was awkward, but only for about two weeks. We both adjusted, went on to have our own lives, and remain close friends. For me, because I knew who I was by then, "coming out" was relatively easy. When I called my dad to tell him my latest "decision," he said, "Well, we'll always love you. What's the weather like in New York?" Which, I guess, is evidence that it is possible to get used to change.
Comment by Heidi GWOTR on April 1, 2009 at 3:27pm
Grüβ Sie!
I'm an exmo for about 20 years. I went the Germany, Munich mission back in the early 80s. I am married to a man, but consider myself a bisexual woman who has not had the opporunity to experience a physical relationship with another woman. My husband and I have a fairly "open" relationship, but I have not found a woman to share that part of my life with.

My oldest step-son (36) is openly gay and I still have many gay friends in California. (I now live in Colorado).

I just wanted to introduce myself.

Heidi GWOTR (Good Witch Of The Rockies)
Comment by Silverhart on April 1, 2009 at 6:06am
I'm an old 'Mo (ex-Mo and HoMo) from way back. Being gay liberated me from the church, which I otherwise would have remained in forever, as TBM as I was. 30 years later and it is still hard to shake, emotionally but not intellectually. The fact that I have been with my partner for 15 years more than compensates. Our family truly is forever, and includes people I would have been trerrified of as a kid-free thinkers, Democrats, other Mo's and even Black people!
Joseph F#%&*^g Smith, life is good!
Comment by Steve the Philosopher on February 8, 2009 at 7:23pm
Brendan, welcome! :)

I love how you wrote: "I left Mormonism in my heart this last summer (2008) after finishing Fawn Brodie's 'No Man Knows My History.'" That's a fantastic book! I just wish that she would have added the subtitle: "But a Whole Lot of Women Do!"

Comment by Steve the Philosopher on February 6, 2009 at 9:18am
Hey Craig,

Anytime. :-) Just shoot me a message at and it'll get forwarded to my "real" address.

Comment by Steve the Philosopher on February 2, 2009 at 9:50pm
Hi Guys!

Craaaaaaig! :-) Wie geht's, und was gibts neues?

I've been meaning to send you and Sean some info about a site that I found that just blew me completely away! Here's an excerpt that I wrote to a few other friends:

I'd like to point out a very useful website: are dozens of thousands of book links here, many of them academic. Just sign up for a free account and go. For example, you can find Michael Gazzaniga's "Human: The Science Behind What Makes Us Unique" here. Once you have an account, do a search on "Gazzaniga" and scroll through the list of matches. Click on the relevant link, and you'll see a few tabs at the top of the resulting page. Select the "links" tab, and you'll see a couple of servers that you can download the PDF file from. Most of the PDF's are "rar'd," which means that you'll need WinRAR to unrar them before you'll be able to read them. lets you download a few files for free each day, but you can also pay around $60 for full access for six months. Since no one can actually read as much as they can download in a day, even for those who can't afford the money, this shouldn't be a problem.

This is the most important website that I've ever found since the beginning of the web! I was stunned to find most of the books that I've been lusting over for months. The philosophy and history (and many other) sections are priceless. I'm a firm believer in education and the power of knowledge to slowly liberate us from superstition, dogmatism, and fear, and to promote human flourishing. I hope that you find this as useful as I have.

Happy Reading!


PS Micah, are you coming to the conference next--oops, *this*--year again? :)

PPS Hi to everyone else I haven't met yet. I'm a philosopher bloke from the Midwest.
Comment by MikeUtah on February 2, 2009 at 8:35pm

Some fun protest signs from the November 7th Temple Square protest in Salt Lake City

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