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Latest Activity: Sep 16, 2016
Started by Adam. Last reply by Tummykatt Jul 28, 2015.
Started by MikeUtah. Last reply by Sheridan Apr 5, 2014.
Started by Nathan- King of the World!. Last reply by Nathan- King of the World! Dec 13, 2011.
Yah, take your time and see where it goes. Relax. She may be just as attracted to you as you are to her. She also may not be of course. For me personally if someone has kids, I am not repelled or running. I am curious and have been around kids. I think if she is the right woman, then she will be attracted to you still and vice versa. She will come with her quirks and you will both innately have a connection and understanding. Things will unfold naturally for however long the connection is supposed to be. Knowing that you have a history of six kids has me think you have a lot of basic relationship experience which will transfer to the relationship and that may have its own things to offer your dynamic. Too much alcohol beforehand may not be the ideal way to go. If you have a bit to take the edge off that is understandable. Make sure you are safe driving of course and responsible. A lot of TBM's can get wild with drinking when they leave and especially the gay community can get self destructive with alcohol and hide from emotions that ultimately we are better to work to face, but that can take good support. While some drinking here and there can be nice, sobriety is not just about drinking, but about presence of mind, and it can be good and important to be 'sober' in relationships, and think with the mind as well as the heart and the eros.
It is natural to go through something of a 'teenage' phase for gay people who have been repressed/suppressed/oppressed for so many years. This can be i the drinking and in the dating for a lot of people. Remember though that what you assume will be an issue for people often is not and what you may not think will be an issue often is. Differences sometimes can add a lot of magic in a relationship. Or they can be the thing that makes a relationship not make sense.
I think it can be important to give yourself and others room to make mistakes and not to know and to learn together. Whether a single date or a life time relationship, you will learn some things, she will learn some things. Be present for the experience. Let her get to know you and trust the process. Better to have someone like you for who you are vs. like you for who you pretend to be. No matter how 'hot' she is, she probably isn't worth losing yourself for. But you may need to go through that lesson like so many of us have had to.
Buzzy, 2 words: Just relax. You'll be fine. She's not a "poor woman" for having to find out about you. She's a lucky woman! Listen as much as you talk. Share only what you feel comfortable with.
A warm welcome to you Navy Girl! Good to have you here. I'm glad you escaped the church intact.
Hi I'm new here but here is a little of my story: I joined the navy a year and a half ago to get out of Utah and I learned that people here are kind and accepting. I am not out to most of my family but I can live openly in the navy (especially since don't ask don't tell was repealed.) I formally left the church in 2008 after I could no longer agree with their bigotry and message of hate that was obvious after the prop 8 campaign and I have been happier ever since.
Any pangenders here?
New website looks to be good: http://www.gaymormonstories.com/
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