LGBTQ exmos

Anyone in the postmo/exmo community who is LGBTQ or an ally, and wants to discuss LGBTQA... specific issues.

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Comment by Carol on July 20, 2016 at 12:38am

Is this also a site to meet people?

Comment by Emma on February 19, 2016 at 8:42am

I'm so happy to find this online community!  Does anyone here know of a support group for LGBTQ former Mormons that meets in or around Salt Lake City?  

Comment by Abravar2 on November 18, 2014 at 6:16pm

I came out to myself (and my boyfriend) about a year ago. At that point I told him I was bisexual and not gay, but we both knew that was a lie and broke up a little while afterward. Then my dad got a job up north and so my family moved my senior year. I was actually quite happy to do it, I wanted a new start and wasn't too crazy about my hometown. 

I was inactive in the church for the past year for obvious reasons, (despite the groundings and lectures I got from my parents) but I started going to combined ym/yw just to make friends. To my surprise, they were the first people I came out to and the most supportive. They eagerly ask about who I'm dating and if she's pretty and gripe with me about the anxieties of the dating pool. The young women's president is also an ally, though she does it quietly. I love her to pieces. I don't really go on Sundays due to a lack of belief, but its nice to have friends. 

Then I got a big slap in the face last week when it got to the other ward's yw's president that I'm lesbian. I got a huge lecture and she has been attempting to find the "root of my problem". 

My question: Even though I don't plan on having any real part in the church once I'm on my own, (Due to lack of belief and the fact I can't seem to swallow the ever screaming inconsistencies it provides) do you think it'll ever give up its ancient ass ways and embrace what even the country is leaning towards? It did that with African Americans and the priesthood, eventually....Just took a while to get with the program.

Comment by Liedtosincebirth on November 17, 2014 at 11:30pm
Holy crapshoot! I'm finally free and feel comfortable coming out and being with women! But alas, I don't know how... Help?
Comment by Cristian on May 4, 2014 at 10:48pm

Thank goodness I found this support group. I'm gay and in the Philippines. I think of quitting the church because I'm gay. 

Comment by Watergod on January 30, 2013 at 12:00pm

Great to find this website...and group! Good to read so many stories of healing!

Comment by Buzzy Brooks on September 9, 2012 at 11:02pm
Thanks Mike! : )
Comment by MikeUtah on September 9, 2012 at 5:42pm

Very nice Buzzy!  Glad to hear it went well for you and that you both found common ground to potentially continue a relationship on.  I wish you well in your dating endeavors.  

Comment by ContemplativeOne on September 9, 2012 at 5:29pm

Congrats Buzzy... I am happy for you both. Glad you two are getting to know each other. Sounds like you are off to a good start. Thanks for offering an update about how it went. Glad the support was useful. Years ago I dated a guy who, like you, had started late in life which was confusing to me. I had some judgment and figured he must be weird or just felt like I was missing something to the puzzle. Over time I came to realize that we are all raised differently and in different communities. He developed in areas I did not and vice versa. I don't think he knew or was capable of discussing it though. I came to value his sensitivity, but much of it sadly I came to value too late.

Comment by Buzzy Brooks on September 9, 2012 at 4:04pm
Returning and reporting. - Sooooo guess who used to be a Scientologist? Yep! She was quite involved in it when she was in her early 20's. She was very understanding of the whole 'bait and switch' methods that Mormonism provides. That part was relatively easy. It was harder explaining my feelings about being attracted to woman and why I hadn't felt comfortable acting on them until this point in my life. I think she related somewhat though. She was married and had a child before she figured herself out. Annnyway, it was a great date. We walked around our little touristy mountain town for about an hour and then sat down by a creek and drank mochas. She told me lots about her history relationships and apologized over and over for talking so much. I loved it. We are going to see each other again this week. I really like her. She's strong and romantic and smart. She has the cutest freckles. :) - Enough of my gushing. Thank you a hundred times over for responding. I really needed the reassureance. I promise not to annoy this group too often.

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