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Disabled and Exmo

This is for those exmos that are disabled or were disabled or know someone who is. We've been given extra challenges not everyone would understand.

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Mental illness & challenges

Started by Billy Forbes. Last reply by Laman2000 Mar 5, 2012. 12 Replies

I suffer from mental illness. Also a survivor of 2 accidents, which caused head injuries, and also suffer from parential abuse growing up (mostly from my father).With these, I am still able to…Continue

Disability and discrimination

Started by Naomi Nov 5, 2010. 0 Replies

Hello!  I am so happy to see this forum sparking up.  What a fantastic network we have, and so many colorful experiences to share.With that in mind, I was wondering if I could open up a topic…Continue

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Comment by Russ on November 6, 2010 at 11:52am
you hit the nail on the head about the networking. It is difficult to be Christ like and always sacrifice for friends in need. Not common at all.
Comment by Pixie on November 6, 2010 at 11:22am
Hey Russ, you're probably right, but I agree with NLM, it's SAD! Networking isn't really the same as friendship now, is it? A person in "networking" mode is out for himself and when he discovers a new "friend" doesn't offer what that person's looking for, they drop them. Additionally, for me, personally, I have always been pretty much independent so I'm not the one who usually puts a strain on a friendship, but I understand your point. Well taken.

Eddyguy, thanks for joining our little discussion here! And can I just say how sorry I am for your lack of decent friends. I hear ya! I sometimes wonder if "friends" who know we have a MI, take advantage of that. Plus, I cannot tell you how many times I've allowed myself to be treated like a doormat just so I could remain friends with someone. And here's a "pet-peeve" of mine that I'd like to shout from the rooftops: "just cuz we have a mental illness does NOT mean we are stupid!!!" People are always amazed that I'm not some total ding-a-ling (although at times, I'm sure I make them wonder). They obviously know little to nothing about how the brain works!! (Ok, now I'll step off my soapbox and shut up!) :)
Comment by Tina on November 6, 2010 at 4:12am
Russ, I think many people are like that and it's sad!
Comment by Russ on November 5, 2010 at 1:40pm
I don't see it as a game or prank. I just think people use friendships as networking. A disabled person is not going to help their career, but will often be a liability on their time, patience, and resources. So, they move on.
Comment by Tina on November 4, 2010 at 10:04pm
No offense taken on the initials! It's fine by me! :)
Comment by Pixie on November 4, 2010 at 8:20pm
Hey Russ! Congrats on getting through my entire ramble! You get the "brownie" point for the day! LOL! :) Sorry I was on my "soapbox" about how I think friendships should be. I'm greatly relieved I'm not the only person to have suffered these insensitive friendship "games or pranks" (am I paranoid to think they do it on purpose?) but at the same time, I'm incredibly sorry you've been forced to endure the same cruelty. I wouldn't wish this kind of pain on my worst enemy *sigh*
Comment by Russ on November 4, 2010 at 8:08pm
and I thought I was the only one who got 'dropped'. thanks for your letter. it was great.
Comment by Pixie on November 4, 2010 at 7:59pm
Howdy! Thanks for the "hi" NLM (is that okay to use initials for NoLongerMormon? I don't want to offend!!) :)

Yup, Russ, you're right...I have a lot of "friendship" issues cuz they'll be friends with me for a while, then suddenly "poof" they're gone. Or, I'll introduce one friend to another and suddenly I'm the "3rd wheel" and they become friends and then they stop communicating with me. I was totally on my pity potty the other night (happens whenever I hit a pain level of 7 or more) and I get "irked" because I'm the one who's always having to get in touch with friends. WHY IS THAT? They *never* call or text or email (let alone snail mail) me...I always have to instigate communication and frankly, I think it's Rude! Aren't friendships suppose to be a 2 way street? Or how about friends who only talk about all their drama and chaos but never even bother to ask "how are you"? Then of course there are the TBMs still in my life (sorta)...nope, they don't contact me, I gotta do it. Right now, I'm ready to give up. That's why I'm feeling encouraged to step up to the plate here in this new group because I think the folks here are of a better quality and know how to look past their own noses (unlike TBMs). I'm rambling. Sorry. But I'm really hoping to make friends here on LAM because I think they'll be the last people to pass judgment. It was a HUGE step for me to come "out" and admit my human frailities. I certainly don't judge anyone else...am hopeful people will treat me likewise! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I'm most grateful! :)
Comment by Tina on November 4, 2010 at 5:21pm
Russ, I know that feeling all too well! I think we all do! :-/
Comment by Russ on November 4, 2010 at 5:14pm
coming 'out' on a disability is always dangerous to friendships. people always say I look fine. then they never call again.
 

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