I have been doing a lot of reading about the history of religion. Just a hobby. I ran across the following definition:
Religious Abuse is the crushing inner psychological, spiritual and emotional damage suffered by members of authoritarian communities of faith whenever its spiritual authority is twisted by spiritual leaders to achieve a desired goal through unethical, cruel and damaging means.
What was your experience in your time in the great MoCh? If so who, what, way, where and when?
I wouldn't have ever described my experience as religious abuse. I feel like those who hurt me in this religious system did so unintentionally and because they were afraid for me or loved me. However, I have seen people outright abused and manipulated in the name of the church.
The first person to come to mind is my sister-in-law. Her ex-husband used the patriarchy as license to control her and others around him. When she didn't want to have a fifth child, he said that God gave him inspiration for the entire family and he felt they should have another baby. She would cry and cry when they were trying because she couldn't imagine having another child. Luckily they didn't conceive.
When they were getting divorced he continued trying to pull the "I'm the spiritual head of the household" card and tell her what God wanted for her and their family. He got the bishop on his side and dragged her into his office constantly so they could double team her and try to guilt her out of it. Because he was the head of the household he gave her no access whatsoever to any of their bank accounts or funds and withheld the money she needed to hire an attorney and divorce him.
I know this is a domestic situation, but in the Mormon church women are taught that their husband is their spiritual leader, so I think it's religious abuse too. They covenant in a ceremony that is central to everything they believe to hearken unto their husband as he hearkens unto God. And this opens the door for already controlling and abusive people (like her ex) to use a very effective and deep form of manipulation.
Astro Logic, I do remember wondering if she was trying to punish me for not asking her to marry me the first time.
Your thoughts are interesting and something to think about. It sounds like you have some good ideas on the subject.
Due to the fact that started this I guess that I should say more.
I will just take one example and that is the MoCh doctrine, (non-doctrine) on people with black skin. This damned doctrine originated, as best I can tell to placate the slave holders near Independence MO. we sold out the slaves by stating that they could not really become members of the church. I can understand panic and fear leading to a bad decision,
BUT they allowed generation after generation grow up beleiving it. They let me grow up with that sh## it my head. That is abuse.
They also defended it. If you read Brigham, Mark E, Joseph F, Mormon Doctrine etc you can see that it was not only believed but expanded. Some how the doctrine pops up in Joseph's translation of the scrolls.
I was at the LA temple last week tending kids while the recomended ones were in the temple. The top dog at the visitors center wanted to know why I was not inside. When I mentioned the doctrine of Blacks he dismissed it as something that was a long time ago. I replied that it should have been corrected a long time ago. Then he made the mistake of mentioning Prop (H)8...children will now grow up with the evil homosexuals stamped in thier minds. UGH!!!!!!!!!!!