My mom is that way always completing the task even when she doesn't think the other wants her there. One sister that is inactive for years she visits at work because the lady won't see her elsewhere(makes excuses) so my mom catches her at her buisiness that she owns. That is pretty screwed up if you were to ask me. My mom isn't even comfortable seeing her there but she still does it anyway. It goes to show how the numbers are most important... LDS inc preaches that God gave man their agency in the GOE and the BOM states that man are free agents unto themselves... So I ask, where is the opportunity to choose? I mean I already know the Mormon Gospel I don't need anymore teaching I was baptised right? So Y all the attempts to get me back? I MADE MY CHOICE... AGENCY... practice what you preach LDS that's my point :) but then again it comes down to what I always say "it's a buisiness" peace out
It is screwed up to visit someone at work. Or, you could look at it as your mom just making sure the lady is doing okay. For those sisters, I used to just call them on the phone for a short chat. I do feel bad about some of my visiting teaching, and some of my judgmentalism concerning it. A dear friend on my list went to the Methodist church because her husband was a member there, and because it kept their family peaceful and together. And I remember thinking she was such a traitor at the time. And now I feel very badly for how I judged her. Her marriage has survived nicely, and they seem closer than ever.
Turning point, A watch list? Totally crossing a boundary as far as I'm concerned. Don't hesitate to share that with her if you are ever thinking about it. The simple fact is you don't need to be watched, and if they don't want to spend time with you simply because they really like you, the hell with them.
My thinking is that you treat them as you would anyone else. Don't discuss it unless the topic comes up, and just be very casual about it. No need to make a bigger deal of it than it should be. More and more people could care less what religion someone belongs to and so I think it best to have that attitude about your/our non-religion and just not make a big deal of it, even if the topic comes up. Hopefully that helps them realize they shouldn't make a big deal of it either. You're still a good person worthy of friendship and acceptance. Anyone who fails to recognize that perhaps should be allowed or encouraged to distance themselves.
Without wanting to pry I would be interested to know WHO initiated the get together.
Did you make contact first, seeing you say you haven' seen them in a while?
If THEY initiated the contact I would imagine that it is part of the "wondering why you have just disappeared from your ward over the past year....." and trying to fellowship you back into the fold.
I served on enough auxilliaries to know how it works...as I am sure many others can testify.
Maybe I am just toooo wary of ulterior motives since leaving.
On the flip side - I hope they just missed you and want to spend time with you and that it is not part of the many systems in place to reactivate members - have a great hike
Remember when we were all totally active in the church? How uncomfortable it was to be around someone who had voluntarily left the fold? And now we've been on the other side of the coin. So it isn't easy for anyone. But I hate the pressure the church puts on women to perfect their visiting teaching, their mothering, their home making, yada yada yada. All those home making meetings used to make me want to vomit, yet there I was, at nearly all of them, doing my thing. My time would have been better spent at home with my kids.
To tell or not to tell. What ever is comfortable. Everyone in town knows I've been out for 24 years, but when they run into me they act like I'm still in the ward.