I know this is dependent on circumstances of course, but when an occasion arises, do you willingly mention that you "were once a mormon"- (proud of it), or avoid mentioning it as much as possible -(ashamed) or are you just indifferent about it.
Then of course you could fall into the category of those that seek out an opportunity to bring up the subject of your past membership too. Which is it?

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Very interesting topic.  I live in Utah, in what I refer to as "the lion's den".  I'm surrounded by Mormons.  I was a hard core member for 32 years.  My husband and I held many callings.  I graduated from Seminary, Ricks College and BYU.  Now that I've resigned, I really cringe when people ask me if I'm Mormon.  And for those who do not live in Utah, people ask that question of me ALL THE TIME! I try to laugh it off or mention that I'm well versed in the Mormon culture.


I am ashamed of my Mormon heritage.  I am ashamed that I was duped for so very long and allowed the Mormon church an amazing amount of control over my emotions and life altering decisions.  I have a Facebook page and I will not post the fact that I graduated from Ricks or BYU.  I would rather people assume I'm an uneducated schmuck, than a Mormon. When we travel outside of Utah or Idaho and people ask where we are from, the next question is almost always, "Are you Mormon"?  If it is outside if the US the question becomes, "Were you a missionary here"?  


I'll never escape my past.  I'm trying to accept it and even look at the good that has come from it.  Without the church I would not have met my husband and he would not have the ability to speak another language.  Maybe one day I can say that I'm indifferent.

When my wife is present we aviod talking about religion, Other wise I have no problem telling people that I was a Christian  of the Mormon sect and now am an athesist.If they what to discuss it I am ready.
I'm ashamed of the pain I brought the people around me by encouraging the thought processes I was taught as a Mormon.

I've not yet had the opportunity except here and with my family.


I'm definitely not indifferent yet.  I strongly resent the time and money I've wasted on the church, as well as resenting my wasted intellect.


I'm proud that I finally saw the truth, though embarrassed at how long it took.  I will definitely say I'm proud to be an Atheist to the next religious nutters knocking on my door, and if they are LDS, I'll let them know how much I resent having been brainwashed as an infant.


I'm not ashamed to say I was a mormon, even though 50 years should make me extremely embarrassed.  I just chalk it up to being brainwashed as an infant.  I'm intelligent, but I do know I'm a slow learner, so I'm sure that's part of it.  At my age, I'm not ashamed of much.  We are all imperfect in our own ways.



I'm terribly ashamed to have been LDS.  Yet, I'm not ashamed that I'm ashamed.  Does that make sense?  When it comes up in conversation (more frequently than I ever would have imagined) that I speak Spanish, I no longer volunteer that I served a mission for my church and gained it that way. I just kind of brush it off and try to change the subject.  The last thing I want to be associated with are the mormons.  :(
Disaffected, I think I know what you mean by "not ashamed that I'm ashamed"
If asked about my life, I share it.  Mostly indifferent.

For me personally,  I enjoy every opportunity I can get to mention that I "once was" - perhaps its a sadistic streak - but I think there is still the misconception that I was exed for some misdemeanor or another, so I am only too happy to share the details of how I came to leave something that duped me for so long - much to the surprise of many.

Ever heard the saying "Ignorance is bliss"? - well that was what my memberships was like. Maybe that IS the idea of telling members not to delve too deeply after all.

Enlightened, I too enjoy saying I once was.  Haven't thought of not wanting them to think I was excommunicated, but since you mentioned it, that seems like a good reason.  My main reason is the hope than I can make them think about it.  Can't hurt.
Disaffected, I think I understand your position on the subject of your mormonism coming up.  These are very personal feelings, and I think I'm a little on the dull side when it comes to telling others every stinkin thing I know about the church.  I tell people about the "meat" of the church, right off the bat, and maybe because I spent 35 years in the church that makes them wonder what I've got for brains.  But, when it's all you ever knew, and did at times have good experiences, then I think it's all good.
Shugamuffin, It pains me to hear you talk of feeling so ashamed of being duped.  It's not like we were born with light bulbs in our brains to tell us we were wrong.  I've been accused of being not very bright by some atheists, because I'm still a believer.  We can always look at our belief systems and find things in them that look rather kooky to others.  Don't you think you did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time?  And it speaks well of you that you received higher education, regardless of where it was.


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