If you have read Steven Hassan's book "Combating Cult Mind Control", or been around the postmo block awhile, you probably are painfully aware of just how fruitless it is to try get TBM's to critically analyze their own religion. Steven Hassan suggests helping them see the parallels in comparable organizations and let them figure out the blatant signs. I've been thinking perhaps there's another approach, that may or may not have been introduced before or at least not widely suggested or talked about: "De-conversion through Reconversion". This is more or less how I first left. Converting to a belief system that makes far more logical and emotional sense made my transition out of Mormonism nearly painless and far less dramatic. It also made a lot smoother transition to the possibility that nothing exists after death.
So what do we reconvert people to if you don't want them stuck in another cult? Reincarnation. If you think of "deconversion through reconversion" as a means to an end, I think we are fully justified, since powerful mind control tactics are employed to keep our family in the dark etc. Once they are deconverted/reconverted, they can much more easily turn a critical eye towards Mormonism and finally see it for what it is. They may or may not eventually drop what they were reconverted to, but at least their mind will be set free to decide what they'd rather believe.
To help in the reconversion, I wrote up the intro to "A More Loving and Logical Plan for Existence" as seen below. You may add, subtract or modify any or all of it to meet your customized conversion needs. Mormonism is by far one of the worst "plans of salvation" that I know of. Even if you don't like the idea of converting your loved one to believing in reincarnation (seems harmless to me), it shouldn't be that hard for you to develope some other customized belief system to convert them to all the while subtly deconverting them from Mormonism. I am open to all suggestions, comments, feedback and criticisms of this idea. If it helps even just one soul leave Mormonism, my joy shall be full in the presence of the Flying Spaghetti Monster. On to "A More Loving and Logical Plan for Existence".
Note: I am not trying to start a religion or anything of the sort. This is just what makes sense to me if it so be that some part of us exists after death and seems like one of the most harmless belief systems one could adopt. The idea is to get their minds thinking about a "plan of salvation" that makes a lot more sense or more unconditionally loving than the POS they currently have.
A More Loving and Logical Plan for Existence
Assuming God exists and is an unconditionally loving and logical being, one would think that nothing less than the ascension of all beings would be acceptable, leaving none behind in an eternal "time out" or other condemned state for not passing the course - a kind of "no child left behind" methodology for heaven. Assuming that some part of each of us is immortal, our soul or spirit if you will, and that we exist for the purpose of evolving and becoming something greater, I put forth a more loving and logical plan for existence, that is based mostly off of the precepts of unconditional love with the application of logic and reason.
Due to the nature of our frail bodies, life varies in length and suffering for each of us. Life may be snuffed out anywhere from moments after birth, to several decades that may top a century for the longest lived amongst us Homo-sapiens. The experiences we pass through can also vary greatly depending upon the country of birth and the many environmental contributors ranging from the local economy to personal freedoms and more. One life time, no matter how long or fulfilled, falls short when compared to all that there is to learn and experience in the Universe. If you could compare the length and depth of one life time to a drop of water, and the vast experiences and length of eternity (aka infinity) to all of the oceans of the world combined, you'd still have to fill an infinite number of planets with an infinite number of oceans for this to be a real comparison and to gain an appreciation of just what it means to live forever and how insignificant one lifetime is in the vast scope of a never ending existence. Thus, basing an eternal assignment or condemnation off of just one single and brief lifetime seems short sighted at best and ridiculous at worst. With forever to burn and an infinite void to fill, an often ignored alternative seems so much more logical and unconditionally loving: Reincarnation.
Just as our education systems usually allow for one to repeat a grade when they failed to grasp the concepts, or because they slacked, rebelled or whatever, so too would a just and reasonable God allow one to live as many lives as necessary for them evolve and gain the greatest amount of experience, knowledge, wisdom and compassion possible. When viewing Eternity from this scope, it seems possible that we may already be ascended beings who choose to be reborn in this dimension from time to time to experience new things, learn new depths of suffering and compassion or just get out of the daily grind of heaven. Have you ever wanted to know what it was like to be King Arthur or perhaps Galileo? Why wonder when you can just take a brief vacation from the in-between world and live it in the flesh, a sort of plugging back in to the matrix so to speak. The possibilities of this type of school of learning are endless.
When it comes to deciding what's important, it may be worth noting those things that likely continue with you in your between lives (life after death, before your next incarnation etc). This would likely be just our relationships, experiences and wisdom.. Service to others and respect for all forms of life would probably find its way up on this list. How you treat and respect others may eventually take precedence over how well you can obey a list of rules, which rules may or may not influence how you serve others and yourself. Doing good has its own rewards, even if only felt by yourself. Relieving suffering, feeding the hungry, bringing about peace and equality will probably seem more worthwhile than how many prayers were said or rules obeyed when you interact with those souls again in between lives. The cycle of re-births allows for everyone to progress and eternity means that we have forever to get there, if it is that we are trying to get anywhere. Perhaps even in this, the journey is the point, and not the supposed destination.