I was born and raised in the church and believed it 110% for 50 years. I had a Temple Marriage, was a member of the Bishopric, paid my tithing, supported my son on his mission, attended the temple, etc. etc., you get the picture. I "KNEW" the church was true. Absolutely no question about it. I guess because I "KNEW" it was true I never really took a hard close look at it. Long story short, I fell in love with another member of our ward, she left her husband, I left my wife and we moved in together. Yep, two model Mormon members, both temple recommend holders. I knew my fate was sealed and I was going to hell, but that was a choice I made. So my #1 reason for leaving was because I was excommunicated. But that's not the end. After about a year away from the church, and still "KNOWING" it was true, I thought I'd go talk with the bishop, repent, and get baptized and return to the flock. Me and my new wife were very happy together and had an awesome marriage. I was sure she'd go along with whatever I wanted, as we were both happy in the church when we were members. Then I realized I was in a position I had never been in before. I was no longer a member of the church and if I was going to get back into the church, or any other organization that required 10% of my income and about 6 hours a week of my time, I should look at it very closely and rationally. I had never done this before. So I went online and started checking out the church. HOLY CRAP!!!!! I found the other side of the coin. I never learned this stuff in church. Having an engineering background, I was looking for facts. So my #1 reason for not returning to the mormon church was the DNA proof that the Lamanites were NOT decendants of Lehi. I consider DNA to be extremely accurate and with over 8,000 native Americans tested, from North America, South America and Cental America and from over 100 different tribes, and they can't find any with DNA ancestry connecting them to the middle east where Lehi was suppose to have come from. This means the Book of Mormon is BOGUS. That's right, when Lehi's son said, "I, Nephi, having been born of goodly parents" it is all BS. Along with all the millions of inhabitants in the Americas spoken of in the Book of Mormon. No artifacts, no language connection, no middle eastern writings, and what about the wheel???? They had wheeled carts etc. in the middle east and if there really was a group from there that had the ability to build a ship and sail to America, then certainly they would have built the wheel when they got here. But there were no wheels in America prior to the explorers arriving from Europoe. So the DNA was my #1 reason along with the supporting evidence I mentioned. And this is just the tip of the iceberg. Almost forgot to mention, we've been married for 9 years now and still have an awesome marriage.
Thank you for sharing you story!
The house of cards fell very quickly for me too once I came to the realization that I'd been hoodwinked for 36 years! Glad to you hear you have a strong marriage and that is intact since leaving the church!
We have an awesome marriage. The bishop told me of the doom and gloom that awaited me if I left the church. Loosing my relationship with my 3 boys and my grand children. How he wouldn't have my blood upon his robes, etc. All a bunch of bologna!!! Once you start looking at the facts rationally, it's amazing how many issues there are with the church. Not one or two but dozens and dozens of serious problems and lies that are substanciated by scientific fact or in some cases the church's own history. It's hard to believe so many people are decieved their entire lives.
I was told by my stake president that as a graphic designer and web developer that I would lose all of my talents (not that I have a lot) if I left the church. I told him, I'll risk it. So far so good. Same talents, same problems, everything is the same, with the exception of far less stress, 10% more money, happier family, more time on Sundays, new things to try, a lot less white laundry, less embarrassment trying to hide my religion, get to be myself; only positives! I cannot believe the fear-mongering I had bit - hook, line, and sinker!
Thank God for sinning, it's a great doorway into freeing ourselves. Totally almost laughed out loud at your story when I got to the part about realizing you would have to donate your time and money again. Truth be told. Our own truth!
It's always good to hear other people's stories.
That is awesome you had the courage to investigate the church. We are to assume your wife also left?
Yep, she was excommunicated too. It's funny how I still believed in the church even after being excommunicated and planned on going back. I'm kinda surprised I investigated because I "KNEW" the church was true and never wasted my time investigating before. It's funny how positive we are about things when we're born and raise in the church.