Well, if they are hardcore believers, I don't think you will get anywhere arguing with them. I think the best you can do is to teach them with your example.
It took me many years to get my father to a point where we can discuss ideas and beliefs. Distance helped a lot. I used to play by their rules when I was under their roof, but moving away helped me to be more independent and live my own way, and they saw that even I was living in a way they completely disapproved (for instance, I moved in with my GF and we have been living together for many years), I am still their son and I love them. And then, we started to understand each other the way we are, and we can now discuss these things.
(Racism is not an issue at home but, well, gay rights is still a complicated topic)
I struggle with the fact that my parents, brother and 1 sister can't allow themselves to have a relationship with me because I don't have the same belief system. To me it seems that it is just too threatening to them. They can't admit to themselves that they don't "know" everything. The love and acceptance I am able to share with my friends reaffirms my life everyday. I feel saddened that I am unable to have that connection with my family.
Sounds exactly like what my parents would say, except they wouldn't backtrack afterwards. I have a lot of hope for this problem being wiped out in this next generation.
When I was in college, my parents came to visit. I happened to have a black friend over at my apartment. My parents refused to leave until he did. I was so humiliated.
So a little part of me wishes one of my girls will marry an african america man: it would teach my family sooooo much about love having NOTHING to do with skin color! And my philosophy is that we'll all be gray eventually or like the goo backs in South Park. LMAO Oh, plus #1 is blue eyed and blonde - OMG I'd have the cutest grandbabies. ;-)
Rasicm is going away faster and faster.
I'm not sure Darcie. I know that my experience growing up was limited to interactions with LDS in a lot of ways, so I have a harder time speaking to where the bulk of the White community was coming from. What contact I did have on the outside of the church seemed overwhelmingly supportive and positive about MLK.
There are so many things I look back on and shake my head over in the old belief system. A serious amount of brain washing has to go into religion to get folks to buy most of that nonsense. The tower of Babel for instance. Good grief.