I'm new and sure this has been discussed, but hope it is okay to revisit this topic.
I can't say my wife was the first woman I ever had sex with, but still I couldn't wait for the day when I could be with a woman, no guilt and watching Mrs. sexy parade around the house.
It hadn't hit me how much the garments were going to affect all of that. I was the perfect Mormon at the time, but was instantly resentful that the church I belonged to was in my bedroom. I don't think I got the Memo and hadn't fully realized that these things went under the bra and panties. Not to mention the psychological trama of having my new wife wearing the exact same underwear as my Mom and mother-in-law.
I also had to abondon my own garments long before I ever left the church. I couldn't sleep in them to save my soul (pun intended). During the day it was just as bad and after a miserable first year, I started just using them for dressing up. By some strange logic, I decided wearing no underwear was better than actually buying heathen underwear and less likely to get noticed by fellow Mormons. It really is strange what happens, when we try to coform to the silly things religions ask us to do.
Just wondering if anyone else had the same feellings that early after being married.
I dreaded getting garments and HATED them from the moment I put them on. I tried to be optimistic beforehand - maybe it's just like wearing shorts and a t-shirt. But no. They are uncomfortable, ugly, and bulky. Now I don't feel like it really effected my sex life that much. But I missed cute underwear, feeling sexy, and just being comfortable.
Garments were one of things about the church that really creeped me out and started me thinking. First of all, why on earth would God give two shits what kind of underwear I am wearing? That has nothing to do with the quality of my character, how I love others, or how I serve God. But even if it mattered on some level, why is it such a big freaking deal if you don't wear them? I mean people are almost more upset about not wearing garments than not going to church or breaking the Word of Wisdom. Why did I have to overcome such total brainwashing to take them off? I really didn't get it. It was like IMPERATIVE to everyone that you wear them AT ALL TIMES, but no one knows WHY. It's weird.
I too took of the garments wayy before I left the church for good but after I stopped believing it was all literally true or God's One True Church. Pretty much it was the first thing to go and I have never looked back. :D
Always hated garments, and was especially sad to see my husband cover up is lithe, muscly body in the feminine-looking mesh garms.
Now that I'm out, and my husband is still in, I have made a huge point out of how anti-sex those ridiculous garments are. There is something very sensual about skin against skin. There is nothing but a turn-off about skin aginst mesh garments. So, when he really wants it bad, he takes them off and parades around in some silky boxers I bought him.
He is now probably willing to go straight to hell with me if just for the sight of me in my sexy gentile lingerie :)
No wonder the men who hold the strings of power in the church make wearing garments a deal=breaker.
I can't believe she gave you garments! That's insane!
See my main post about me thinking it was a sin to have sex without garments.
Wedgy wear is indeed a good name. Because of that, I always wore them 4 sizes larger than what was recommended for me. Sloppy and extra ugly, but at least no weggies.