As a Mormon I was a reluctant missionary. Yes, I grew a lot and was "successful" on my full-time mission, but before and after it, I was very reluctant to speak to any "non-members" about it. I guess I didn't want them to think that I was pushy or weird. It was easier to do it half way around the world.
Oddly, since disconnecting from the Mormon church, I find myself wanting to spread the word. This may not be unusual in your own personal experience, but for me it is. I chose a low profile when disconnecting from the Mormon church. All my family are Mormons. I know it's cowardice on my part, but I don't want to risk losing their love and support. I guess I should share it with my family out of my love for them so they don't continue to waste their lives. Perhaps sometime in the future.
Mostly I find myself wanting to spread the word at work. Most of my coworkers are Mormon. I’ve mostly made vague sarcastic comments about Mormon things. I haven’t said anything bold yet. All things in their order, I guess.
What has been your experience?
Omg, it takes however long it takes. I lived out of state, so never had to deal with family for years and years and years. I have now moved back to the same state for the last 10 years. They know I don't go to church, but we don't talk about it. The closest I've come is ordering coffee when out to lunch with my sisters. Then last year my sister got upset with me because her son and his wife came over to visit me and we drank wine. Her son has left the fold, but she is holding out hope that he will return. She screamed at me, "why did you let them drink wine?" (like they are still kids, they are almost 30) And I said, "I'm not a mormon". Just to drive that home with her. She burst out crying and ran to the bathroom and holed up for the next 1/2 hr. Sad. But I've been out of the church for over 30 years. I am always respectful of them and thier life. But now their children are growing up and I have my own relationships with my different neices and nephews and a few of them are leaving the fold. So, who's house you think they are gravitating towards now? The aunt who is related but not lds either! And I'm enjoying it. It gives me some family members I can relate to too.