i imagine one day mormonism will be so far behind in my life that i will not care for it anymore, no more spending hours on the bloggernacle, no more searching in google "lds" news to see if there is any strange thng happening to the GAs. No more Glenn Beck, no more Podcast listening, no more back of my mind thinking and comparing "what will the mormon me do in this situation"..........
I need to know if it is possible.
Do you think that former mormons can leave it really behind or is like a disease we carry always with us?
Is it healthy to know we cannot erae it or is possible to "deprogram ourselves"?
You received some excellent advice here and as I read your words, I could hear your lovely Spanish accent. You sound like you have really taken the loss hard my friend so move on and enjoy your life. There are other exmos in BC if you can find them sometimes it helps. I think having someone who is a real life friend and not only a cyber friend helps even more. You may find some good friends in the exmo community. If you are ready for it, why don't you tell people where you live so that you might have the chance of meeting. The Exmormon Foundation conference - a cheap plug here, is awesome. Once a year, in Salt Lake City in Oct. You hear excellent talks about various topics of interest to former mormons; and those former mormons become your flesh and blood friends. It is about 1000 miles for us to get there for us, but each time I have loved it and the fabulous people I meet each time. I look forward to seeing and hugging with those I have met on previous years, chatted with on forums - it is a whole new community and yet not limiting in any way. We are Atheists, Agnostics, Catholics, Freethinkers, Libertarians any type you want you will find them here and at the conferences; people with the integrity to leave the cult when they discovered the truth instead of trying to make the evidence fit their beliefs.
BE an exmormon my friend; exult in that fact because as an exmormon you can be whoever the hell you want. Buenos Noches.
Jean, you are all candian exmos favourite!!!
thanks for your comments
thanks Dob, time will tell, one thing is for sure, i am out of the prison as you pointed out.
dependancy on the thngs of the past can be corrected, i am sure.
I successfully ignored it for a long time, ironically, while I was still living in Salt Lake. It was easier to ignore in Salt Lake because I never had to explain anything to anyone.When I moved, the mere mention of my state of origin would bring it all up again.
This was what motivated me to look up exmormon web sites. It has helped me to make peace with my past, which is important because you really can't get rid of it, it is what made you who you are.
Maybe others have said this, take a break from the online community, go snowboarding or go take a tango class, instead of going on line. We will all still be here--
Great question! I still get a jar every time I drive past a LDS chapel. There are still emotions ingrained in my mind that pop up at the strangest times. Conversations with truly wonderful and intelligent people who were so in love with the LDS church and the doctrine. They felt special, blessed and on the narrow path.
When I left over race (ugly doctrine about Blacks), gays (Prop H8), polygamy (Joseph's 14 and 15 year old wife) women's issues (Women in the church are still in the best position in the world), attitudes of the superior white LDS male (I won't listen but let me straighten you out)
I went out of my way to follow the church through blogs, chat rooms etc just to convince myself that I had been right in my very difficult decision. I grabbed onto anything negative about the Church or the GAs. So do not feel alone. I went through counseling and anti-depression med before I finally stomped my foot and said, "NO! I am right. I just have to follow my path and not worry about something that was slowly killing me."
I think that one of the problems was that I was not perfect while I was in the church and therefore doubted the indicators because it might be an "excuse to doubt" (you learn that early in the church). I was also doubting the faith of my parents (we want the world to do just that but not us). Anyway to shorten this - I am slowly deprograming myself and yes it can be done. I went to a Protestant Church that helped me. I feel better about it all of the time. It is like a divorce, it takes about 3 years before you can look back and see how truly hopeless it really was.